Does saying “no” make you feel guilty? If so, you’re not alone.
Maybe the idea of saying no, especially to close friends and family, makes you feel nervous about what the other person will think of you. Maybe you feel anxious that they’ll be upset with you, or that your boundary will hurt them somehow. You might be thinking about how your mom always pulls the guilt trip about not staying long enough when you visit, or maybe you and your partner are accustomed to dancing around difficult topics that involve your needs. Setting boundaries- saying “no”- is totally anxiety-provoking for many of us, because it puts different needs into direct competition with each other. As hard as it is to say no, it is also a totally necessary thing in order to show up fully in your relationships and in your life.
Maybe the idea of saying no, especially to close friends and family, makes you feel nervous about what the other person will think of you. Maybe you feel anxious that they’ll be upset with you, or that your boundary will hurt them somehow. You might be thinking about how your mom always pulls the guilt trip about not staying long enough when you visit, or maybe you and your partner are accustomed to dancing around difficult topics that involve your needs. Setting boundaries- saying “no”- is totally anxiety-provoking for many of us, because it puts different needs into direct competition with each other. As hard as it is to say no, it is also a totally necessary thing in order to show up fully in your relationships and in your life.
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